Asher Aw

It’s only a matter of time… about sooner or later.

For most people.

Dad asked me not too long ago questions that were along the lines of – “When are you going to get attached?”, “You need to get married soon!”, “You’ve not even been with a girl before – don’t make me worry for you!” and stuff like that.

Hey, I were my dad, I’d be asking me the exact same questions too.

Am I asking too much for the kind of girl I want to stick around with? Is that too much to ask? I don’t want to be with some girl just to “try out” (even though lots of people have advised me so).

Here’s what I believe – I believe that there IS such a thing as dramatic love. All those love dramas? I believe that happens very often in the lives around us… it just so happens that while we’re going through it, we never really know the beautiful story that’s being weaved.

So, if I were to get attached, what am I looking for? There are certain things that matter and many things that don’t matter. I think it’s easier for me to talk about what are the things which don’t matter.

• Height (I’m secure with my height – tall girls are A-okay)
• Age (+/- 5 years is okay with me – I don’t mind older women)

But for things which matter…

• Belief (has gotta be Christian)
• Mindset (intelligence is sexy to me)
• Dreaming-Realist

I don’t talk so much about looks because it’s the one thing which can be quite a variable (of course, she mustn’t look all that bad, physical attraction weighs heavy for all dudes). If a girl ain’t all that pretty, dressing up and make up can help her a lot. And for a pretty girl, dressing up and make up really seals the deal.

So when will I get attached?

I don’t know.

Probably not so in a long time.

And probably not with someone in Singapore.

I just haven’t met any girl in Singapore whom I am perfectly comfortable with, can laugh easily with and can have an intelligent conversation with.

Of course, I don’t want to get attached to a female version of me… *sigh* It’s just too difficult.